I think if you’re still reading, you are at least partially on board with the idea that we cause the majority of our own state and trait discomfort. Yes?
The notion that our thoughts impact our feelings and our actions is easy to understand, and the fact that thought distortions like shoulding and minimization(among others) can make everything worse is clear. Today, I want to add one more piece to the puzzle. This one is called subjectification. If you look up websites that talk about cognitive distortions, you’ll find one referred to as personalization, and Subjectification is closely related. I like to treat it as it’s own beast. [Read more…] about Oh, Discomfort! How Do We Get Ourselves There Part III