https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/Writing by Tara Moorman, PhDhttps://ondhealingandcoaching.com/avoiding-social-overstimulation-during-the-covid-19-pandemic/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/avoiding-social-overstimulation-during-the-covid-19-pandemic/Wed, 25 Mar 2020 18:31:56 -0000We can become socially overstimulated even without physical proximity. It may or may not come as a surprise to you, but there is a risk of becoming socially overwhelmed and overstimulated right now. COVID-19…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/getting-off-the-cycle-of-discomfort-mindfulness/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/getting-off-the-cycle-of-discomfort-mindfulness/Mon, 09 Dec 2019 15:56:58 -0000You made it! You learned about Trait and State Discomfort, journeyed through the Cycle of Discomfort, and learned how Cognitive Distortions and Subjectivity can make everything feel worse. You've come a long way, Baby!…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/oh-discomfort-how-do-we-get-ourselves-there-part-iii/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/oh-discomfort-how-do-we-get-ourselves-there-part-iii/Sat, 07 Dec 2019 15:55:38 -0000I think if you're still reading, you are at least partially on board with the idea that we cause the majority of our own state and trait discomfort . Yes? Yes. The notion that…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/oh-discomfort-how-do-we-get-ourselves-there-part-ii/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/oh-discomfort-how-do-we-get-ourselves-there-part-ii/Tue, 03 Dec 2019 19:20:03 -0000Today we're continuing our exploration of Cognitive Behavioral ideas and how they relate to our internal trait and state discomfort . We talked yesterday about the yummy gem, the Cycle of Discomfort (CoD) and…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/oh-discomfort-how-do-we-get-ourselves-there-part-i/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/oh-discomfort-how-do-we-get-ourselves-there-part-i/Mon, 02 Dec 2019 16:11:34 -0000Ok, so we talked about the 2 types of discomfort: state and trait. (You can review that HERE if you need to.) I promised that we'd talk about how we make ourselves uncomfortable and…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/state-and-trait-discomfort/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/state-and-trait-discomfort/Tue, 26 Nov 2019 16:43:44 -0000Oh. Discomfort. It can look like anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, stress, tension, pain, loneliness, or any number of other words. You name it. For some folks, even happiness reads as discomfort. Go figure. There…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/about-acceptance/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/about-acceptance/Sat, 23 Nov 2019 12:10:00 -0000Sometimes, when I tell a new client that my approach is based strongly in acceptance, and I explain that I believe we must accept all of our Selves in order to change, they give…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-compassionate-self-evaluation-and-self-care/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-compassionate-self-evaluation-and-self-care/Mon, 18 Nov 2019 16:54:41 -0000The final piece in the Practical Spirituality toolkit is Compassionate Self Evaluation and Self Care. It may well be the most important piece of this puzzle. The truth is that very often, the BIGGEST…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-practicing-value-based-behavior/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-practicing-value-based-behavior/Wed, 13 Nov 2019 17:23:57 -0000Practicing from our new positive value system is pretty easy - As long as we feel good. Right? I know for me, acting with compassion comes automatically when I've had my cup of coffee,…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-mindfulness-practice/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-mindfulness-practice/Tue, 12 Nov 2019 14:46:43 -0000The second piece of the Practical Spirituality pie is Mindfulness Practice. First, let's review - what is mindfulness? To paraphrase Jon Kabat-Zin, Mindfulness is stepping into the present moment on purpose and without judgment.…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-values-identification/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality-values-identification/Mon, 11 Nov 2019 12:44:42 -0000Practical Spirituality is all about value-based behavior. Values. They define who we are as Beings, and we all have them. We demonstrate our values in every move we make. Thus, we show who WE…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/practical-spirituality/Fri, 08 Nov 2019 15:16:44 -0000What the heck is, Practical Spirituality ? Practical Spirituality is not WHAT or WHO you believe (in) or don’t believe (in). It is not about your religion. It is not about what happens or…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/abandoning-the-self-justification-rationalization-and-blame/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/abandoning-the-self-justification-rationalization-and-blame/Tue, 05 Nov 2019 12:54:06 -0000I’ll just jump right into this one. I’ve been in an emotionally taxing situation in one of my personal relationships. I’ve had all the feelings - anger, sadness, hurt, guilt, and even shame. It’s…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/some-thoughts-on-healing/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/some-thoughts-on-healing/Fri, 01 Nov 2019 17:39:10 -0000I was looking for a picture for this post, so I entered the word, healing , into the search engine over at Pixabay . I wasn’t really surprised by what I found, or what…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/growing-a-well-boundaried-life/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/growing-a-well-boundaried-life/Fri, 06 Sep 2019 11:43:49 -0000Boundary work is one of my favorite subjects. My rock-solid belief is that living a life with healthy boundaries leads to greater joy, fewer resentments, and more compassion all the way around. I also…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/breathwork-because-sometimes-words-are-not-enough/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/breathwork-because-sometimes-words-are-not-enough/Thu, 22 Aug 2019 16:21:46 -0000Sometimes words are not enough. That’s just the truth. I’ve been a mental health counselor for 17 years, and I do believe that talk therapy is worthwhile, but I also know, from my own…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/habit-patterns-a-lost-souls-magic/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/habit-patterns-a-lost-souls-magic/Tue, 13 Aug 2019 16:26:15 -0000I find myself thinking a lot about habit-patterns of energy. I am deeply interested in the habit-patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving that humans develop around trauma, stress, and pain. I want to know…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/childs-fear-adults-sabotage/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/childs-fear-adults-sabotage/Mon, 12 Aug 2019 13:13:21 -0000My Child Self has been scared recently... Lately, my Creative Heart has been longing to write stories. I’ve always written, but over the past 30 years or so, most of my writing has been…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/yes-and/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/yes-and/Tue, 09 Apr 2019 18:07:13 -0000Learning to Yes...And your scene partner is one of the first lessons you learn if you take an Improv class. It is the foundation upon which any improv scene is built. This might seem…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/speak-your-feels/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/speak-your-feels/Tue, 02 Apr 2019 11:41:02 -0000There are so many places that are actually Schools. There are so many messages that are actually lessons -- if we are open and willing to be students. In addition to being a therapist…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/falling-into-busy/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/falling-into-busy/Mon, 11 Mar 2019 13:14:39 -0000Here’s some transparency. Sometimes I get busy. It starts innocently enough. I need to take a new client on a day that I usually reserve for me-time, or more likely, at least in my…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/writing-toward-wholeness/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/writing-toward-wholeness/Sun, 03 Feb 2019 10:45:15 -0000I have always been a writer. My journals, if I still had them would date back to October 1st, 1989, the day I arrived in Edzell, Scotland. With the exception of just a few…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/a-short-something-about-grief/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/a-short-something-about-grief/Tue, 01 Jan 2019 16:47:10 -0000My 11-year-old Dog, Ginger died on December 5 th . I intended to write here. Perhaps share something about grief, a subject I’m pretty well-versed in and have been since my Mom died in…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/the-art-of-stopping/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/the-art-of-stopping/Mon, 03 Dec 2018 04:06:03 -0000"We have to learn the art of stopping -- stopping our thinking, our habit energies, our forgetfulness, the strong emotions that rule us...When we are mindful, touching deeply the present moment, the fruits are…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/envision-it/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/envision-it/Sat, 01 Dec 2018 16:16:13 -0000“I have had my vision.” Virginia Woolf, To the Lighthouse This is Tip #6 in the Wholehearted Living Series ... Have you had your vision yet? What is your vision of your future? What…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/on-my-bookshelf-full-catastrophe-living-by-jon-kabat-zinn/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/on-my-bookshelf-full-catastrophe-living-by-jon-kabat-zinn/Sat, 01 Dec 2018 15:50:44 -0000“Awareness is not the same as thinking. It is a complimentary form of intelligence, a way of knowing that is at least as wonderful and as powerful, if not more so, than thinking.” Jon…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/on-my-bookshelf-the-miracle-of-mindfulness-by-thich-nhat-hanh/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/on-my-bookshelf-the-miracle-of-mindfulness-by-thich-nhat-hanh/Sat, 01 Dec 2018 15:26:50 -0000“To think in terms of either pessimism or optimism oversimplifies the truth. The problem is to see reality as it is.” Thich Nhat Hanh The Miracle of Mindfulness This may be the greatest truth…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/wake-up-in-this-moment-part-2/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/wake-up-in-this-moment-part-2/Mon, 26 Nov 2018 04:00:57 -0000Ok. So I hope that you’ve given yourself the opportunity to wake up in the present moment and find the serenity that lives there. If you haven’t quite found the serenity part, I’m going…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/wake-up-in-this-moment-part-1/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/wake-up-in-this-moment-part-1/Mon, 26 Nov 2018 03:10:47 -0000I don’t know about you, but I spend a lot of time in a dream state - and not because I’m curled up in my comfy bed snoozing (I LOVE true sleep SO much!).…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/the-key-is-inside-its-called-choice/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/the-key-is-inside-its-called-choice/Mon, 19 Nov 2018 22:16:17 -0000“The strongest principle of growth lies in the human choice.” —George Elliot Y’all! I can get so stuck. I mean, I can get so wound up in my own head about changes I want…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/say-yes/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/say-yes/Mon, 19 Nov 2018 04:39:47 -0000“I believe that 'yes' is the only living thing.” —E.E. Cummings This is Tip #5 (of 7) in my Wholehearted Living Series . You’ve done a lot of work so far! In the last…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/identify-the-feelings-you-love-the-most/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/identify-the-feelings-you-love-the-most/Mon, 12 Nov 2018 20:58:08 -0000“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” —Helen Keller This is Tip #4 (of 7) in my Wholehearted Living…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/inner-growth-is-like-a-spiral-staircase-theres-no-elevator-to-the-penthouse/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/inner-growth-is-like-a-spiral-staircase-theres-no-elevator-to-the-penthouse/Mon, 12 Nov 2018 11:52:16 -0000“Growth is a spiral process. Doubling back on itself, reassessing and regrouping.” —Julia Margaret Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way “Life is a journey up a spiral staircase; as we grow older we cover…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/generate-the-feeling-of-gratitude-right-freaking-now/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/generate-the-feeling-of-gratitude-right-freaking-now/Mon, 29 Oct 2018 21:19:18 -0000“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/wholehearted-living-tip2-learn-to-see-your-super-power-choice/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/wholehearted-living-tip2-learn-to-see-your-super-power-choice/Mon, 15 Oct 2018 22:38:26 -0000“There’s always always a choice. My options might really, truly suck, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a choice.” —Jim Butcher, Cold Days This is Tip #2 (of 7) in my Wholehearted Living Series…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/sitting-with-emotions-sweet-sadness/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/sitting-with-emotions-sweet-sadness/Mon, 01 Oct 2018 21:59:47 -0000I’m sitting with my back to my window, propped on a meditation pillow. One of my wonderful girls, a Border Collie cross named Sofia, is next to me with her paw resting just against…https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/celebrate-past-lives-all-of-them/https://ondhealingandcoaching.com/celebrate-past-lives-all-of-them/Mon, 17 Sep 2018 17:33:40 -0000The Path to Wholehearted Living, Part 1 (of 7) Let’s talk about Wholehearted Living . Let’s talk about living a life that fits your values and helps you define your purpose. How does that…