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Trait and State Discomfort

November 26, 2019 By Tara Moorman, PhD

Oh.  Discomfort.  It can look like anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, stress, tension, pain, loneliness, or any number of other words.  You name it.  For some folks, even happiness reads as discomfort.  Go figure.

There are 2 basic types of discomfort: Trait and State.

Trait Discomfort: The level of discomfort that you walk around in most of the time.    Folks with Generalized Anxiety Disorder tend to know a lot about trait discomfort, but they’re not the only ones.  Some people feel irritable a lot of the time or struggle with chronic physical pain.  There are endless kinds of discomfort and all of them can start to seem almost fixed.

State Discomfort: What happens when a trigger gets hit.  When you walk into a room and see something you don’t like and feel angry, that’s state discomfort.

Make sense?

Can you see how the level of trait discomfort impacts the level of state discomfort?  Easy right?  If you feel really frustrated most of the time, it’s likely that you’ll feel more angry if a trigger is hit.  It’s also likely that if you feel frustrated most of the time, you will experience more state periods of anger than someone who doesn’t feel frustrated most of the time.

Right.

Two questions arise for me here.  First – how do we contribute to our levels of trait and state Discomfort, and second, how do we lower both?

Those are the 2 questions I’m going to try to answer over the next several days.  You can look forward to reading about:

  • The Cycle of Discomfort,
  • Thought Distortions,
  • Subjectivity,
  • and a review of how Mindfulness can help us pull out of the Cycle.

Keep visiting.

Filed Under: Discomfort, Mindfulness

About Acceptance

November 23, 2019 By Tara Moorman, PhD

Sometimes, when I tell a new client that my approach is based strongly in acceptance, and I explain that I believe we must accept all of our Selves in order to change, they give me a look that roughly translates to, “You’ve got to be kidding me” or “are you an alien?”.  I think there are 2 parts to their incredulity. [Read more…] about About Acceptance

Filed Under: acceptance, Mindfulness

Practical Spirituality: Compassionate Self Evaluation and Self Care

November 18, 2019 By Tara Moorman, PhD

The final piece in the Practical Spirituality toolkit is Compassionate Self Evaluation and Self Care.  It may well be the most important piece of this puzzle.  The truth is that very often, the BIGGEST WORK happens AFTER we’ve behaved in alignment with our old, self-protective, less than healthy values.  When we mess up, get it wrong, step in our own crap, bleed all over our loved ones, and otherwise fall on our faces, we get a beautiful opportunity to practice our new positive values on the most important human in our hula hoop – our Self. [Read more…] about Practical Spirituality: Compassionate Self Evaluation and Self Care

Filed Under: Mindfulness, practical spirituality

Practical Spirituality: Practicing Value-Based Behavior

November 13, 2019 By Tara Moorman, PhD

Practicing from our new positive value system is pretty easy – As long as we feel good.  Right?

I know for me, acting with compassion comes automatically when I’ve had my cup of coffee, am warm, well-fed and well-rested.

And that’s great!  All of our positive, value-based behaviors count!  We can celebrate our Selves every single time we take a step forward that feels congruent with who we think we are and who we want to be. [Read more…] about Practical Spirituality: Practicing Value-Based Behavior

Filed Under: Mindfulness, practical spirituality, values

Practical Spirituality: Mindfulness Practice

November 12, 2019 By Tara Moorman, PhD

The second piece of the Practical Spirituality pie is Mindfulness Practice.

First, let’s review – what is mindfulness?  To paraphrase Jon Kabat-Zin,

Mindfulness is stepping into the present moment on purpose and without judgment.

We can also say that mindfulness is a quality with some key ingredients.  These are:

  • non-judgment – nothing is good or bad; things just are;
  • non-reactivity – nothing needs to be done to change feelings in the moment;
  • non-attachment – everything is impermanent and constantly changing/flowing;
  • beginner’s mind – we are being open and curious about what IS.

[Read more…] about Practical Spirituality: Mindfulness Practice

Filed Under: Mindfulness

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