Sometimes, when I tell a new client that my approach is based strongly in acceptance, and I explain that I believe we must accept all of our Selves in order to change, they give me a look that roughly translates to, “You’ve got to be kidding me” or “are you an alien?”. I think there are 2 parts to their incredulity. [Read more…] about About Acceptance
The final piece in the Practical Spirituality toolkit is Compassionate Self Evaluation and Self Care. It may well be the most important piece of this puzzle. The truth is that very often, the BIGGEST WORK happens AFTER we’ve behaved in alignment with our old, self-protective, less than healthy values. When we mess up, get it wrong, step in our own crap, bleed all over our loved ones, and otherwise fall on our faces, we get a beautiful opportunity to practice our new positive values on the most important human in our hula hoop – our Self. [Read more…] about Practical Spirituality: Compassionate Self Evaluation and Self Care
Practicing from our new positive value system is pretty easy – As long as we feel good. Right?
I know for me, acting with compassion comes automatically when I’ve had my cup of coffee, am warm, well-fed and well-rested.
And that’s great! All of our positive, value-based behaviors count! We can celebrate our Selves every single time we take a step forward that feels congruent with who we think we are and who we want to be. [Read more…] about Practical Spirituality: Practicing Value-Based Behavior
The second piece of the Practical Spirituality pie is Mindfulness Practice.
First, let’s review – what is mindfulness? To paraphrase Jon Kabat-Zin,
Mindfulness is stepping into the present moment on purpose and without judgment.
We can also say that mindfulness is a quality with some key ingredients. These are:
- non-judgment – nothing is good or bad; things just are;
- non-reactivity – nothing needs to be done to change feelings in the moment;
- non-attachment – everything is impermanent and constantly changing/flowing;
- beginner’s mind – we are being open and curious about what IS.
Practical Spirituality is all about value-based behavior.
Values. They define who we are as Beings, and we all have them. We demonstrate our values in every move we make. Thus, we show who WE ARE every time we take action. [Read more…] about Practical Spirituality: Values Identification